It is essential to recognise when our behaviour is hurting others; seeking support for this can be daunting, but support is available. Engaging with what has happened is vital to bring about effective change.
As a first step, we recommend submitting a Requesting Contact from an Advisor form (this will connect you to Student Wellbeing Services, or HR for staff). Note that we cannot guarantee confidentiality for anyone named in the report, if there are risk concerns.
If someone has told you that you have hurt them
- Listen to them without interrupting.
- Take time and space away from them if you need to process what you’ve heard or are feeling angry or upset.
- If they need time and space away from you, accept this and do not put any pressure on them.
- Take responsibility for the hurt which they have described.
- Be led by them about what should happen next in your relationship and interactions with them.
- Take actions to understand your behaviour, the impacts, and how to navigate future relationships – there are resources here to help you.
Support for you
- The University has a range of wellbeing support.